Help with Database (Im new and probs being an idiot)

Hello, Im trying to link a table back to itself; My situation is as follows:

A User has 2 or 0 Parents;
Each Parent is also a User;

I tried using the relation tool to set ElementID and Child ID as a 1-N relationship but it throws an error each time

how should I go about this

Put the relation in a second table. You have to decide, if you put parent-of or child-of in that table.
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Then you use two columns
User, ChildOf and put the Ids of the original table here. Now try to set your 1-N-relation to this table.
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If you really want to enforce 0 or 2 parents, you have to do this by another way, but I would not recommend it anyway.