Hi all. I have been here for only 11 days, if we ignore the posts I made back in the day when ask.LO was on the old server. So in terms of karma points I count as a noob here, which is fair enough when I have been away for four years.
I came here not so much to ask a question as to provide a partial answer to it.
My first post on the current system was made on Christmas day, and the very first response misunderstood my purpose for posting. That contributor overlooked some of the information I had already given, and ten days later is still doing overlooking that despite my repeated attempts to clarify and to point back to my original post.
They have now followed me to another thread, and what has triggered me to post now about moderation is that while commenting on another person’s suggestion has included the direct untruth that I think X, when X is clearly contradicted by something I wrote on my second post here nine or ten days earlier.
to be misunderstood is part of life; to have to walk away from a thread because of an ongoing misunderstanding is painful but again, on the net, a sad part of life.
Yesterday I was met with the same misunderstanding in a new question: that same contributor has chosen to name me as thinking something that I don’t, and in direct contradiction to what I had said in my first two posts in the first thread.
That is the point where I looked for a moderation button and (unless I have missed it) there isn’t one. To put it bluntly, if I am going to be followed round on this site by someone who persists in a mistaken belief about me AND propagates that view of me around the site, then I wonder if I want to stay here.
I did a search for the word “moderation” under the English category: the latest I could find was from 2020, here. I hope it is acceptable to post something similar after a gap of more than two years and after a change in server and UI.
For me: my main impression on reading that older thread is to feel solidarity with the user who posted it, and I suggest it is significant that @mrjjacobs does not seem to have posted since the migration. You may like to reflect on why they did not feel inspired to follow you guys onto the new server.
I have found a pm exchange with a long-standing member of this site helpful in dealing with this situation. It seems their behaviour is accepted because when not on their hobby horse they do have something to offer
(which they do – despite the misunderstandings they have also managed to squeeze in some useful info between their attitude to the knowledge that I already brought with me, and their persisting in denying that I know those things, and their need to constantly re-explain stuff I have shown I already know which after a few times feels insulting)
But referring back to a misunderstanding in thread X when responding in thread Y should, in my opinion, be something that even the most brilliant contributor can be warned about, and after repeated warnings banned for a time, and if after their return they still do the same thing then banned permanently.
The reason that, I suggest, bringing conflict from one thread to another should be regarded as the most serious banning matter is that that behaviour makes it impossible for a user to walk away without leaving the site completely.
You seem to have lost @mrjjacobs – I wonder how many others you have lost who collectively might have had more to offer than one knowledgeable person who lacks the ability to understand the effect they are having on thier peers?
I have been given advice on how to mute a user. This is not a complete solution because now they have shown they are willing to undermine me by name on a second thread, I feel uncomfortable thinking that they might diss me on any new thread I start. That leaves me with the choice between muting them (allowing them to diss me without my having the ability to reply) or on the other hand not to mute them (opening the door to ongoing conflict whenever that person chooses to re-open the past).
Language: diss is short for disrespect, and is used colloquially to include insulting, dismissive, or disdainful behaviour.
Talking to people in the real world about why they do not use free software or Linux the most common response is that it is “too hard to use”, and on digging deeper the next objection is precisely this kind of dismissive attitude to newcomers. The impression that LO and Linux are only for hyper-geeks is unwittingly strengthened by this sort of behaviour, and especially so on a forum with “ask” in its name, which is likely to attract newcomers when it comes up in a Google search.
I do not want to name the person in this thread, nor the person who reached out to me by pm. Feel free to comment here if you can do so keeping identities out of it, or to pm me if you have comments to make of the kind that need names to be mentioned.
Whether you agree with me or not, I make this post in the spirit of trying to improve ask.LO, and I hope it is received in that way. I am here, as you are, and as the dismissive person no doubt intends, to try to make using LO easier for newcomers.